Dear rocccks:

What we know about ourselves is what we believe about ourselves. What we believe is a combination of thoughts and feelings; thoughts glued in place by strong emotions. These beliefs, ex., that you are not capable enough, was formed in childhood (those Formative Years).

You reject what people tell you if what they say doesn’t fit with what you believe.

And, I believe, the reason you are bothered by anyone disliking you is that any perception or evidence of disapproval, any criticism of you, triggers the pain of what you already believe, that you are not capable enough, for example.

Changing negative, false core- beliefs into true-to-reality core beliefs is a necessary part of healing from the consequences of believing about ourselves (and others) what is not true to reality.

Post again, anytime.

anita