Thank you, Anita. Your advice really helps. I know that we need to talk about BIG things. Like marriage and a time frame. I don’t think he’ll be ready to make a real plan but he might be ready to just talk about it. I guess I still go back and forth with what I want. If he lived in the same place that I did there wouldn’t be all this pressure to figure it out so soon. I could see him as my husband but I also would want him to change some things. I know I’m not going to find the perfect prince charming and I don’t want that anymore. . . I guess it’s just not a good situation because I have to try and be sure about things and so does he and we aren’t quite ready to decide all that yet. But yes, its good that I have time to figure it out and I can talk to him and be honest about what I want in the future and what he says will determine a lot.