Dear Kylee:

I hope this relationship works out for the two of you. Reads to me that he cares and values you.

You wrote: “I always feel like I’m over thinking everything. For ex: If my boyfriend doesn’t answer me for a little I assume he just doesn’t want to talk to me or he thinks I’m a burden”- he doesn’t answer and there is a voice in your brain telling you: “He doesn’t want to talk to you. You are a burden!”

That voice was there in previous relationship, telling you things that understandably make you anxious; raining on your parade, so to speak. I know this voice, it has taken so much away from me, many, many years of potential joy and love and peace-of-mind.

This voice, in my case, is what I call, the mental representative of my mother.

In your case, who does this voice represent?

anita