I think we do need to have a serious conversation about everything. Are you supposed to know 100% that you want to marry this person? Sometimes I have doubts and wish he would be different. The problem is is that he doesn’t even see that he needs to treat me better or appreciate me more. Even when I tell him exact moments where I feel disrespected or unappreciated it doesn’t change. Or are my standards and expectations too high? Or have I gone too easy on this boy and we have gotten comfortable? I don’t want a perfect guy who only thinks of me all day but I want someone that knows when they have a good thing in their life when they do and will do anything to keep it. But I think it’s only human to take something for granted and always be thinking the grass is always greener.

We talked and he is thinking about moving here! It’s great! Some of my worries are that I won’t have enough time to date other guys before he moves here. I force myself to date others but I want to be 100% sure I’m in the right relationship. I guess there is no sure thing but if there are red flags in the beginning, I don’t want to look back and be like oh yeah it was obvious! But how do you know? I just want to be with someone not thinking about if this is how a relationship is supposed to be or if there is someone else better for me out there . . . I love him so much but I just want him to see me as a prize and sometimes I don’t feel like that. He is just a man and I know I can’t expect everything from him. it’s just my dad was such a great dad and husband that my sister and I have always had this problem. We are never fully satisfied in our relationships. But my mom says it’s just us not finding a way to be content.

I know this is a whole other problem but your advice was so good and exactly what I needed to hear, even if I did not want to.

Thank you