Dear Pearl:

It reads to me that you are asking how to talk him into no longer wanting to be in a relationship with you, to convince him to let go. If this is the case, my input is: you don’t have to talk him into anything. It takes two to make a relationship. His desire to win over your heart is his desire, not yours. You don’t have to accommodate a desire you don’t share.

I recommend your focus to be on what you want, need, feel and see if what another wants, needs, feels is a fit, or not. In this case, reads to me there is no fit.

anita