TT I think that what Dee, Cat, and Anita have offered you is very strong support. With Dee’s suggestion of being creative in deploying effective communication, that is key. When I am confronted with hostile communication, I ask a question, perhaps a number of them, I ask very calmly, in a non confrontational way, and I ask it once. If I do not get an answer to my question, I immediately move on to the next and do the same thing with the next questions, if I have any. When you ask why, or whatever your question starts with, and see that the answer starts with “well why did you…” or “how about you…” or “since when did you ever…” or “you never…” and my favorite, “YOU’RE the one that”… (blah blah blah)  I immediately recognize that the person I speak to has no intention of answering my question, that person has no respect for me to recognize my question is an effort to get to the bottom of things and resolve them.  So I don’t like my time wasted, especially if it is for constructive reasons in dealing with a passive-aggressive, immature individual. I simply move on with my next question and invariably move on to have a great day. You are the captain of your ship. Do what I call making a correction in direction. When you are in a relationship, NEVER EVER take the back seat for anyone. Your husband has made it clear through his actions that he is willing to compromise the sanctity of your marriage. Don’t nurture that self-centered behavior by staying with him. I think the trust is gone and will not come back. You have a new life ahead with your daughter. Go get it TT.