Hi Justthere,

I was in a situation similar to yours, and I finally had to walk away. Yet, I couldn’t seem to, because I was so attached to him, I couldn’t bear to part with him..so I asked him to leave me. He never even fought me about it, just saying what do you want Eliana? In a harsh way. When I told him, I wanted him to share his day with me, do romantic things with me, like I did him, send him roses over the internet, cute cards, etc..he never replied back.

That’s when I knew he never loved me in the first place. All I got from him was e-mails saying muah, love you baby. That’s it. That’s when I knew he had become emotionally available and nothing I could do would change him or his feelings for me. To this day, I still love and think about him. I don’t know why, he treated me rudely. He was awesome at first.

It is important first to get our emotional needs met. We should never have to chase live, affection or attention or it’s not worth having. If he is not emotionally available now, I doubt time or anything you can do will change him. He is basically at this point giving you crumbs and you deserve better..no matter what his excuses are. Don’t look at his phone anymore, his social media or spy on him, because it will only make you miserable. And more distrusting and wary of him, further complicating things.

Take a peice of paper and write down all the pros and cons if you would stay in what seems to be a stuck relationship. You should not be investing more time and energy in this than he is and from the sounds of it, he is not even putting in 1%. Let me know your thoughts.