Hi Justthere,

I agree with Anita. He is beyond any point of having a mature, rational two-way conversation. Instead, he flies off the handle, lashes out, and he is out of control. With someone like this, it is almost impossible to have any sort of conversatuon, friendship, or relationship with them. I fear for your safety. When someone is like this, the slightest perceived provocation will set them off.

I have been there, the emotional abuse I endued from my live in boyfriend, went to severe verbal abuse, insults, put downs, I tried couples counseling and he even yelled at the counseled accusing us of hanging up on him and becoming extremely irate and defensive. Then when we got home, that’s when he hit me, and I left, he got arrested.

I don’t want you to go through what I did. I had to go to a shelter. I never thought he was the type of man to hit a woman, but I failed to see the red flags, because I desperately wanted it to work..but at what cost? He does not want to save his relationship with you, does not want to work things out. He just wants to make you feel bad by saying it’s all about you, he is sweeping things under the rug. This is not what you want for your life, I am so happy to hear you are leaving. Please don’t go back to this man, unless he does alot of work on his issues.