Hi Cloud,

I too, have had online relationships with men, some who lived outside the country. I kept telling myself, it would just be friendship, that because we had different cultures, values, that it would not amount to anything. Many men from these countries also have arranged marriages, and many men, just want to get out of that country and move to United States, so I really never knew what their true intentions were.

Then, as time went on, we start talking via messenger and video chatting..they were the first person I saw in the morning, the last before I went to bed. I really had no idea really about these men, maybe they had girlfriends or even a wide and just lonely, many never told me about their family or even posted alot of pictures of their parents on their profile page.

Then the “I love you” started, and I just got so emotionally wrapped up with them. I was so attracted to them, wondered what it would be like to meet them in person, to hold their hand, to go on a date, romance. However, it was just a fairytale on my part. These men in one way or another did not “love” me. They just enjoyed the attention. All it really is is fantasy. My last online “relationship” ended last September, and every day I think about him..but I wonder, if I think about the fantasy of him rather than him. Do you think what you are experiencing might be the same thing? You have never met her? We want what we don’t have, so we yearn for them and in our minds they become this beautiful built up fantasy? Let me know your thoughts if you want, I struggle too, with this.