Dear marv:

I strongly believe that it was the wrong choice, on your part, to encourage her to cherish an abusive father, to start visiting him again. You based your choice on your life experience, not on hers (an inaccurate projection on your part). You acted against her well being. And so, perhaps you should be more accommodating to her, at this point, apologizing to her for having encouraged her to do what is harmful to her, and correcting your own behavior: encourage her now to protect herself from abuse, keep all the distance that needs to be kept.

anita