Dear Cecilia:

You wrote about your friend, likely ex friend, that she is “direct and often oblivious to other people’s feelings. She also has a tendency to bring other people down so as to uplift herself:-

For my better understanding, I ask: can you give a couple of examples to her being oblivious to other people’s feelings and to bringing other people down so to uplift herself?

If your quote above included the whole text, then I suppose you didn’t refer to any specific incident; you didn’t give her an example or two of what she said that “comes off mean and rude”?

anita