Hi Love…

Welcome to Tiny Buddha. It is truly an amazing gift.

I can easily sense your frustration. I absolutely agree with Anita. It is very unfair to have you play referee. When you have tried so hard to be instrumental in making things work out better, with a 100% fail rate, I truly believe it has been time, more so now, for you to support your husband, child, family. How does your mother behave toward both of you, when “she might be ok for a while?” It is reasonable to consider her depression as a large part of the problem. I do not know if there is a history of her getting professional help, her being antagonistic, with what I suspect, is a hostile, perhaps verbally abusive reaction. Love I think the rules should change in that you no longer need to be referee when your efforts have not been embraced. You will still have your mother and whatever connection you may have with her, like a history of happy memories. Moving on will allow you to give more of yourself to your family, and NOBODY has the right to tip the balance of your family. Please do let us know how you are doing…

Pearce Hawk