Hi Wildoceanflower,

I remember your posts and feel so bad for everything you went through. Since you got some great responses. I just wanted to add, that grieving is not bad. It took me three years to get over my ex. It is normal and healthy. Try not to suppress these emotions, just feel them, and know they are only thoughts, and that it will get less intense in time. Sonetimes, you will take three steps back and one step forward. No shame to this. Does not mean you are bad or weak. Each one of us is different, and we all have different lenghs of time to get over a loss of a love. It is okay to miss someone, the memories of them is what we hold on to, the nostalgia, yearning for simpler times, the Times of “being in love”. This will eventually fade. You will have your good days and bad. One day, you will wake up, and not think about him anymore. It does get better.