Dear Zeba:

You wrote that you have parents who love you, a great job, everything you ever wanted- reach out to your parents for help, seek quality psychotherapy, please do get the help you need.

You wrote: “Everything was amazing for the first three years. We used to fight, but we both realized our mistakes and played an equal part in fixing everything”- it reads to me that for three years the two of you fought and it worked for you, the ways the fights were resolved. Then on the fourth year he changed the fighting rules and it no longer works for you, understandably. Thing is, there shouldn’t be fighting in a love relationship: it is not necessary and it is harmful.

How were the fights resolved during the first three years, can you give me an example or two?

anita