Dear Mina:

I read your last three posts. I need to understand better.

1. Regarding your sentence: “I should stop torturing and blaming myself because someone loved me very much”- can you elaborate on what you are torturing and blaming yourself about? On the nature of your self torture and blame in regard to this relationship?

2. You wrote: “Things weren’t really good before we broke up, and I felt a shift of change in him”- what shifts specifically? How did you feel about those shifts and how did you react to them?

3. You wrote: ” It was peaceful knowing that everything wrapped up nicely from the very first day to our very last day together”- can you elaborate on this sentence?

* I wonder if you expect people, your ex boyfriend, friends, others maybe, to be always the same, treating you the very same way throughout. When he or she is stressed or otherwise is not the same, you get unsettled, distressed. Is that so?

anita