Dear Mina:

Thank you for your expressed appreciation.

Your mother’s input, since you were a little girl, about “nobodies” is scary for a young girl and for the very young woman that you are. It can be scary lifetime, unless examined, evaluated and somehow resolved so it is no longer scary.

This input puts you in this position: ever since you were able to understand your mother’s input, as a young girl, and until such a time comes (not yet happened) that you satisfy her requirements to be a Somebody, you are in danger of being that Nobody. This is why, on one hand, you have been in  a rush to marry a Somebody-man who by marriage will make you a Somebody or, as you stated in your last post, ” my only way is studying well and pray to earn a really good job after I graduated”-

It is your only way to be a Somebody, that is, to win your mother’s approval and not to suffer the horrible lives the Nobodies in the world must be living.

Can you imagine, Nina, that what your mother taught you is not completely true?

If you examine and evaluate her teaching, my goodness, it will save you so much time, energy, resources. It will make your life much easier, free from that pressure of her input.

This examining and evaluating of her input is your other way, I believe.

anita