Hi Belle,

Why do we as women, usually after a breakup, try to “be our best selves”, “find ourselves”, “get rid of our egos”, “heal”, etc., etc., etc.

Don’t worry about your ego or lack thereof. You are supposed to have an ego. “Letting go of my ego” is just another bone to chew on. It beats the “I just broke up with a jerk who never deserved me, and now he might actually see that, GOOD!” thoughts.

I suggest finding a new hobby, going someplace new, meeting new people, taking a course your could really sink your teeth into. Because you don’t need to quiet your ego about him. You do need to redirect your mind.

Good Luck,

Inky