I’m 17 years old currently a senior in high school. For my sophomore and junior years my best friend was a guy whom I’ll call Max. Max and I became really close our sophomore years and we bonded through our discussions of politics, love of history and other nerdy things, running, and a school organized trivia club called Knowledge Bowl. Max became severely depressed his second half of sophomore year and I helped him through as best as I could. Around our junior year things started to turn a little bit sour. We argued a lot more and fought over stupid things. I began to become unhappy and I could sense he was too. In late April he pretty much cut me off unannounced and that was hard for me to handle. Around that time I was going through a rough time mentally and that didn’t help at all. Sometime in May he asked to talk to me and I agreed and he told he was gay, and that he had had a crush on me since we became friends. He told me how part of the reason he acted the way he did much of our junior year was that he knew I didn’t like him that way (I’m bi) and didn’t know how to deal with the fact I didn’t like him in that way. This took me a little bit aback as I did not really expect that but I forgave him for how he acted. Max then told me how he felt a burden had been lifted off his shoulders now that he came out. Throughout the summer Max began to act and dress differently (more feminine clothing one could say) and made new friends exclusively with women. We saw each other a few times over the summer with stuff I planned but Max never invited me to hang or anything. By the start of this school year I saw that Max had changed a lot in my mind and didn’t feel the same as when I was best friends with him. He insisted that we can still be friends, just not best friends or at that level anymore. This is where I need some advice – I don’t know what to do. Max never hangs out with me or his old guy friends anymore (he says he doesn’t like being around straight men), and we occasionally talk over text when we see something funny. Recently I have found it kind of painful for me to communicate with him. I see him all the time at school, and we are both involved with running and Knowledge Bowl, and whenever I see him I get reminded of when we used to be friends and how things between us and Max himself have changed and I’ll be the first to admit it hurts a bit. I’ve contemplated cutting him off, but I don’t know if that is the right decision because I’ll still see him at school and in running and Knowledge Bowl (I can’t quit those because I am a captain for both). But part of me is telling myself just try and move on as best you can without cutting him off and then you’ll never see him again once you graduate. But I don’t know what to do. Any advice would be nice.