Anita,

So to summarise your feedback :

1. My ex boyfriend did or does care about my well being, and it did became one of the reason of the break up BUT the MAIN reason was my ex boyfriend well being, right?

2. He had to ejected me as a girlfriend but he did not rejected me as a person when the break up happened, correct?

You wrote : “..That is all fine in my mind because he represents for you accepting-Mina (the opposite of rejecting), of valuing Mina as a person, and what he represents is real, it really is comforting.”

What do you mean when you wrote that he represent me? You are saying that there 2 different Mina then? The mina that rejected herself vs mina that accepted herself – and the latter identity was represented by my ex since he accepted me as a person?

If so, does it means that right now I am “accepting” myself ONLY because my ex boyfriend told me to? Because the memories and his words to me are so meaningful that I started to believe and accept myself because of it?

You wrote “his legacy” – can you explain about this? Is it the same concept as me honouring me, in a way – by accepting myself?

Please elaborate, If you do not mind 🙂

-Mina