Dear Ash:

You wrote that you “realize that no matter how much help we get (from your therapist), at the end of the day it’s still our decision on how to act/respond”-

It is always our decision, never should be or could be the therapist’s decision. The help a therapist may give a client is to make decisions with greater awareness, make more thoughtful, wiser choices.

For me to understand better and suggest how you can stop wondering who is texting your live-in boyfriend, I ask: what specifically are you afraid of, when you realize he received a text?

anita