Dear Ash:

You fear being cheated on, or replaced, or your trust betrayed because someone already did that, I believe. I have learned that we fear what had already happened (before we fear possibilities or eventualities that didn’t happen yet).

The low self worth is a consequence of experiences, not the cause of them. Children are not born with low self worth-that happens later, as a result of experiences.

Your father not being emotionally available may be something to explore further. I wonder if your mother was emotionally available to you.

If you were distressed over your father’s lack of emotional availability and your mother was emotionally available to you, then she must have noticed your distress and attended to the issue at the time. Did she?

anita