Hi Kristen,

You terminating a pregnancy because he met some girl, whether for four days or longer, is so terribly insulting. Tell him that “WE are continuing this pregnancy!” Terminating a pregnancy should never be decided JUST because he met some girl.

Now for the “get real” part: You were never married when you had your child with him. He was, bottom line, a free agent, and could come and go as he pleases. And then later you slept with him, and he was your best friend. But the bottom line is still that he is a free agent, and can come and go when he pleases. And he is no longer your best friend. Best friends don’t do that.

He’s already helping to support one child. He certainly can help (perhaps only to a degree) with two. He literally made (unmade?) the bed and now has to lie in it. But for you? No more sleeping with him. Ever. Raise your children in relative peace.

Best,

Inky

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