Hi Ella,

Is there anyway, the nights your boyfriend goes out, that you can make plans to have a “girls night out” with your friends? That way you won’t be sitting home alone worrying and wondering about your boyfriend, because you will be too busy having a good time yourself. It doesn’t have to be a bar or anything, maybe a shopping trip, out to eat, an art museum, an observatory, a play, comedy club, movie, etc. Let him worry about you for a change, and if he texts you..let him worry..don’t text him back for a few hours. Let him know you won’t stand for his disrespectful ways.

Does he go out every night with his friends or more than three times this week, if so, I would try to set boundaries with him. Either he wants to “party” or he wants to be in a committed relationship. Also why can’t he ask you out sometimes? I know when I would go out with my girlfriends, I would invite my boyfriend out and show him off. Why not? Why is he hiding you? Talk to him, set clear boundaries, tell him your concerns which are very valid. He probably doesn’t know it bothers you unless you tell him. He should take you out, not his friends all the time.