Dear N:

If a friend is available to you only when single, only in between romantic type relationships, on a regular basis (that is beyond a particularly trying time in a particular relationship), them maybe that person does not qualify for the term Friend. People define friends differently. For some it is the same as friendly acquaintances. For others, a friend means something closer, more committed, more reliable than a friendly acquaintance. You decide on your definition.

And by the way, I don’t think you are overreacting. Your feelings are valid, they do matter and need to be taken seriously.

anita