Dear greenshade:

Yes, wait and see the change, over time,  before trusting it to be there in practice. People may have a true motivation to change an abusive behavior, express that motivation, reveal impressive insight into their behavior and act differently, but then, when they are tired and especially distressed, they … forget that insight, their motivation and go back to the old behavior. The old behaviors are easier to perform when tired and distressed than the new behaviors.

anita