Dear Victoria:

You weren’t rude to your father for sharing with him how you felt, like no one cared. And indeed, his response is congruent with the belief that he doesn’t care. A caring response would have been to ask you to elaborate, to tell him more, and for him to listen attentively and with empathy.

This is what I can offer to do here, to read what you write attentively and to respond with empathy, to communicate to you that your feelings matter, that you matter.

* Will be away from the computer for the next 17 hours or so.

anita