Hi Mary Ellen,

It’s funny that we women try to find love through gratitude journals, yoga, meditation and raising our vibration… Then we go on Match… and the guy looks at our photo and goes, “Nope! I’m fifty but this twenty year old looks good!” (He of course, also gets rejected, but that’s the male story). You could try Our Time, which is like Match for the over fifty age range.

When my mom found love again in her fifties she found it with a guy that she used to know. Go through your old yearbooks and social media. Find the guys you knew back in the day that are widowed and divorced. That is the easiest way.

Best,

Inky

Dear Mary Ellen:

My input on your profile: too positive. If I was reading this profile of a potential partner, I would think to myself: I can’t keep up with someone who is “full of life… (someone) fun, hard working, romantic…(someone ready) to start some adventures with someone special”- I am not that full of life, not that fun, not that romantic, not that adventurous. I couldn’t keep up with a woman like this… I am not that special.

If you really are that high energy, that positive, that adventurous on a regular basis and you are looking for a man who is also that high energy, that positive, that adventurous- then there is a small chance that such a man exists. I don’t know of any such person personally.

anita

You are welcome, Mary Ellen. Post anytime.

anita

OK, here’s more:

1. Pics include: beach, somewhere in Tibet, cross country skiing

2. “If I’m not travelling or working you can find me… at the beach!” (last part said in a cutesy tone)

3. “I’m not into playing games and like nice guys”

4. Colors (to match blonde hair and blue eyes): Black top and black hat default outfit. Pink shirt (no hat) if at the beach. Red hat and black outfit if skiing.

That, my friend, will give you responses. Guys won’t think you’re copying the ad  if they’ve seen the ad. They would, however, have comforting feelings of deja vu.

Inky

• This reply was modified 7 years ago by Inky.

Hi Mary Ellen

Check out some professionally written profiles on http://www.e-cyerano.com and http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/well-written-online-dating-profile-matters/ This team gets great results and even if you don’t want to use there services, you’ll get great ideas from the samples. Professional but natural photos don’t hurt either. Most (good) men over 50 want an attractive woman (and yes many want younger) who is low drama, sexy, happy, and fun. They fear prior bad relationship baggage (yet often have not resolved their own 😉 , needy/clingy, high maintenance, man bashing and lack of appreciation. Of course as we age the available pool of great men is smaller, but don’t lose heart! Get out there and have fun doing things you love that men also love (sporting events, golf, church, local or charity events, and other things relevant to your area). Smile and stay open to conversation without worrying about how you look or getting a date. Watch non-verbals and don’t waste anytime on a man not showing interest or kindness. Best of luck!