The guy I saw/dated for 2 months just broke off me out of blue the day before Christmas Eve, saying that he is really sorry but he doesn’t see a future with me. I was really confused about where did it come from and ask what has changed/happened, and he said that he likes as a person and we had good chemistry in person but sometimes when he talked me, he feels some disconnection and he realized that he is not happy. He just doesn’t see us in a relationship.

Honestly the reason that he gave doesn’t make much sense to me and it just feels off, and I can’t even logic myself out of it… I know I won’t get a real answer from him and I just need time to heal but now thinking about why is driving me crazy.

A little background, we met online and things were going pretty well (at least to me) for the first month. He asked me all those questions about family, friends and relationships, and made me feel that he wanted to settle and have a seriously relationship. And I think we have good connection and similar values towards things and life, and enjoyed time talking or being together. There was one time he mentioned that he doesn’t want to have a relationship at the moment bc he needed to study for the upcoming interviews and focus till then. I really liked him and wanted to get to know him more, even I’m really for a relationship but I told him that we could take it easy now and date more seriously after his interviews. He said, that’s fine we could do that.

We still talked a lot over text but over time I felt that he was not as interested in knowing about my life as the first couple weeks. Since he still texted me a lot I didn’t want to think or push too much. And I thought inconsistency in early relationship is normal. We were holding hands, acting like a couple and finally had sex the last time when we met. The week after he still texted me but the text sounded more like a chore rather than he actually cared. Then I went on 2 and half weeks trip and told him that I want to close off my phone for 1 week to just enjoy the moment, and asked whether he was still seeing/talking to other people, he said here and there but not lately due to study, and probably won’t bc need to focus. I then told him that I don’t want him to talk to other ppl anymore but if he wants to focus on study first then it’s fine. He said he would try his best… then the 2nd day after I was back to my phone. He broke off me with that message.

Honestly, at my side, I didn’t feel any disconnection during our interaction, can feelings  really be this one sided and blinded? I can understand he broke off me bc he still wanted to see other people, or he just feels pressured by me not wanting him to see other people plus the upcoming interviews, or he just simply lost interest. But not seeing a future with me really shocked me as a breakoff reason from him.

Sorry I wrote so much but I just really need a channel to vent..