Dear Alexandra:

I wasn’t aware that you posted a response to my last post to you here until a moment ago. Your post before last probably didn’t reflect on the Topic page.

* Thank you for your other thread, the one with my name in capital letters, nice to be acknowledged like that and I do appreciate you initiating it, that is kind, thoughtful of you. I like your last post there. To clarify what I meant by being here to help myself and learning: being here has and  is helping me to heal from my unfortunate childhood and a lifetime of dysfunction. Learning and healing are the same, in this context.

Back to the topic of your thread here: I am glad you consider me your friend and indeed, I am here for you. Anytime you post and I am at the computer and I am aware that indeed you posted, I will reply.

Regarding your aggressive, abusive sister: you owe it to yourself to end contact with any person, family or not, who is aggressive and abusive to you. This is your job and your primary responsibility to yourself. It doesn’t matter her reasons (there are always reasons) for her aggression. It doesn’t matter that her aggression is verbal and that she doesn’t beat you up physically. We humans don’t function well with aggression in our lives, it is not congruent with healing.

Is terminating contact with her something you considered before or something that you are interested in considering?

anita