Dear Romeo:

I think you did the right thing to end this relationship because you were suffering in it and she did as well. You felt relief after the recent breakup because your suffering was happening in the context of the relationship.

Your suffering in the relationship may not be because the relationship was wrong. It may be that the inner voice you mentioned is fueled by past troubles being inaccurately projected into this relationship.

And it may be that there was something inherently wrong about this relationship- thing is you didn’t indicate what that means. You wrote that conversations with her did not flow. If you would like further input from me, would you like to give me a she-said/ he-said account of a conversation with her that didn’t flow?

anita