anita, you asked me in a post on the other thread –

Dear calisister:

They are very dishonest and cruel, you wrote.

What do you do with this understanding, in context of your ongoing contact with them?

Does this understanding, this seeing of the truth and telling it like it is, not sugar coating it, does it lead to anything different in your interactions with your parents?

anita

Response: this understanding means that when i interact with them, that they are wrong. some things they say are laughable. its almost as if i make fun of them when they say certain statements, in my own head of course. HOWEVER, doesn’t mean that some things they say still do not flow into me. i still get angry or sadness when speaking to them – just not as much. kinda goes away within 5 minutes.