Hi Jen,

Have you ever seen a hampster just going around and around on a wheel, trying to get somewhere, but just spinning a wheel? That is what is happening if you stay. You will just keep spinning..getting more and more frustrated. After a year, he should be calling you his girlfriend if he is ready for any kind of relationship. He has hinted many times, he is not. Take his word for it. He is not ready. You deserve someone who is. x

Thank you, Eliana

You are right. Which is why I am very afraid if trying will lead me somewhere. We have made some short-term commitments like he said he will see a therapist and I promised I will allow things to go slow. I see someone that wants to work on himself, but I wonder if I am in a committed partner role while he isn’t. Right now I miss him and I am scared of saying it, thinking it my just push him away.