Dear gypsygirl:

You are welcome. In nature, in many animal species the males compete for the attention of females by showing off their physical strength. The female chooses the strongest so to pass on strong genes to her offspring and in so doing, increase their chances of survival.

In modern human society there is way less importance to physical strength because of machinery and technology. Also, there is less interest in having children. Before women did not have the option of having a job, or the jobs available were lower paying. Nowadays a woman can have a job, and sometimes a higher pay.

Maybe considering these things will help your comfort level with your boyfriend. Maybe not.

Also, I referred to the appearance of strength because it is often an appearance, not true strength that people exhibit. Differentiate true strength from appearance of strength in you and in others, best you can.

Try to see you and your boyfriend as a growing team, each of you strong and weak. Accept empathetically his weaknesses and promote strength in the team.

Or end the relationship and seek the strength- or appearance of strength- elsewhere.

I hope this is helpful. If not, maybe another member can suggest something more helpful to you.

anita