Hi Mark,
The FOO influence doesn’t have to manifest romantically. Friendships and work relationships can be haunted by the FOO!
Some of my past BFs, and my current DH, is decidedly NOT my father or mother! Of course, some “were” LOL.
When we’re attracted to someone, it helps to ask ourselves “WHY?” i.e. WHY is this handsome, witty person who is condescending so charming to me?” When we clearly see abuse/neglect/personality disorders for what they are, and resolve firmly not to get sucked into that, then that frees us to go out only with people who are nice, attentive and healthy.
Best,
Inky
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