Dear Jen:

You are welcome. Your thinking reads clear to me in your last post.

You wrote that you were taught that loves conquers all. I think love is an opportunity for two loving partners to conquer a whole lot. It takes love and partnership, two people helping each other. Reads to me that you have in you what it takes to be a good resource for him, a good partner. But he has to see you as that good resource and be motivated to use this good resource (use not as in abuse or misuse, but in a win-win way).

Like any resource, if a person doesn’t value it as a resource, the person will not be motivated to use it for one’s advantage.

I hope to read from you again.

anita