Dear joanna:

You are welcome.

You don’t have to wait to Thursday for him to get his stuff. You can let him know that you need his stuff out today, or tomorrow. You can let him know that you need him to pick up his stuff today, or tomorrow. If he can’t, he can send someone else to do so. If that is impossible, you can gather his things and secure them in a place outside your home, maybe a storage place for a week, so he can go there Thursday to pick up his stuff, not in your presence.

Notice the following, if you will: is there a motivation in you to cause him to change his mind Thursday, to … make him love you this one last time?

Also, as you “overthink and get nervous about seeing him”, you can make this an opportunity, with a pen in hand, and list all the things you say to yourself, all those self blaming statements you make. You are welcome to share those here, it may be helpful to you.

anita