Dear Cali Chica:

Seeing more and more of the truth is the way to heal, and you are seeing more and more. It is progress, to align our thinking and our believing with reality. Progress for your own mental health, for the health of your interactions with your husband, and most important, your input into your future children’s minds and lives, if you do become a mother, that is.

You wrote: “You had children so they could be indebted to you for life.. By nature of providing them food and basic support… Now they owe you their energy and souls”-

Yes this is the common thinking, the .. tradition. At one time it was legal and acceptable for parents to kill their children if that was convenient for them. Now it is illegal. But it is legal to … kill their spirits.

The belief of many parents is: these are our children, we do with them and to them what we please. We have that right. We feed them, we clothe them, without us they wouldn’t be here. So they owe us their lives and we do with their lives whatever we please.

Lots of adult children accommodate this belief and practice of their parents for the rest of the lives, doing the same to their own children, and so it goes.

In nature, by the way, this does not happen. It happens exclusively  in human society.

anita