Dear crawford:

It does resonate. Well, what this means to  me is that you are probably neither gay nor straight. You are having trouble with the experience of emotional intimacy because as a  boy, your mother got too close to you, sort of invaded your mental space to such a degree  that it was dangerous to you, took away from you too much.

So now, you are afraid of intimacy, be it with a woman or with a man. Got to resolve this fear and the best place to do this is in quality psychotherapy. There you can explore your relationship with your mother, resolve over time and work that fear of intimacy and then you will be able, over time, experience emotional intimacy with another, feeling safe enough to do so.

anita