Dear Casey:

There are three things I see as possible factors here: one is his desire to live in the UK, to get a work permit. He had some motivation to live and work in the UK. I wonder how much, if at all, that played into the relationship. Then there is some money he owed you, or still owes. That may have played a part as well. Then there is that severe anxiety you mentioned, on your part, a certain drama in the relationship fueled by your anxiety.

In your efforts to “know what to make of it”, if you would like, elaborate on the first possible factors, and on that drama you created? Or did he create such as well?

anita