Dear Cat:

You wrote: “Growing up I was never taught love, or how to be in touch with my heart…being guarded, mistrusting, lashing out at people etc.  My sister has been the same, and I feel like she still hasn’t learnt how to really open her heart” – I believe you were born loving (or soon to be loving), you were in touch with your heart and so was your sister, born with an open heart. The two of you didn’t need to be taught love. You needed your love reciprocated and when it was not, when you were hurt instead, then you put your  guard up.

The “being guarded, mistrusting, lashing out” is a consequence of lack of love, of mistreatment.

Tracy reads like a kind person. I wish everyone was as gentle as she sounds like. Regarding the “being in (your) room and crying and crying and not being forgiven” memory, will you remind me of it?

anita