Dear Anon:

I am not surprised this incident seems worse t you than other mistakes. Sex has this kind of affect, making any wrongdoing or possible wrongdoing feel way worse than it was. People feel guilty for imagining having sex with a person close to them, only for imagining, for what never exited the distance between one’s ears, never spoken or actualized.

Are we guilty, do you think, of what we think and imagine, for example, imagining having a sexual interaction with someone we shouldn’t, in real life, have such interaction, while never speaking of it or acting on it in any way?

anita