Dear Newlifestartsnow:

My advice: depends, if there was more to the friendship than her taking advantage of you, if she was at times helpful to you, if she did things for you, if she was attentive and kind to you, then it may make sense that you initiate contact with her and suggest that you talk.

But do not apologize for not having let her take advantage of you last time,  and do not suggest that you are willing in the future to be taken advantage.

Also, don’t suggest to her that she shouldn’t take advantage of you because she has all these advantages over you that you listed. Instead assert your position: what you are willing to do and what you are not willing to do.

Were there harsh words used before the two of you stopped talking, words she used or that you used, accusations and such?

anita