Dear joanna:

To your question on the other page: no, I don’t have this feeling anymore, that I was alone feeling this pain, that no one felt or feels  such pain but me, the way I felt it. I use the past tense because the pain is way, way… way less intense than it used to be. (It used to be intense, overwhelming, exhausting for decades, having led me to a dysfunctional life).

Thing is I felt my pain but believed my mother was the one who was hurting. I wasn’t able to separate myself from her. I am now separate from her, mentally that is.

anita