Dear Katie:

A few days ago you wrote: “I wrote this when I was feeling really ugly and felt like it was the reason for all my problems in life. As time passes by, I realize now it is because I am simply just not outgoing.”

Yesterday you wrote: “I changed my mind. I think it is because I am ugly.”

* In “ugly” you are referring to not being physically attractive or pleasing to the eye enough, being less so than other women.

Well, let’s think about “the reason for all (your) problems in life”- you brought up one possibility, being ugly. Then you considered another possibility: not being outgoing. And then, you went back to the first possibility.

My input: when considering any two possibilities, it is possible that both apply, not one or the other, but both. It is also possible that there is a third possibility, one not considered yet. Maybe a fourth as well, and then any combination of possibilities may be the reason you are looking for.

anita