Hi Debido,

My advice is going to be a little different than others have given you. I believe if you love someone, believe in love, you still see a future with him..then fight for him. Don’t let him take the cowards way out. “I feel we are on limbo and not able to move forward” is just a fleeting thought. You wouldn’t have been together for seven years of things were not moving forward. I would let the dust settle a bit, then talk to him. Ask him for clarification of what his definition of “limbo” is. Don’t let him off the hook with a so silly remark like that. That is almost as cowardly as “it’s not you, it’s me” what does that mean?..again..someone unable to tell the truth and take the lame way out. Talk to him. There is something hidden in that statement that he wants from you, and he is not getting in the relationship. Ask him what is is. If he is having unrealistic expectations, then, let him go, but it may be something simple that you both can work through and not toss a 7 year relationship out the window.