Dear Jen:

You are welcome.

I hope you do overcome this pain. There is nothing at all that you could have done to change his long-ago established belief about himself. No words or actions on your part have that power. What you needed was a commitment of a loving man. While he has love  in him, and  you have seen it in his eye3s, heard it  in his voice… he is incapable of providing you with what you need. Unfortunately for you and for him.

anita