Dear Kathleen:

Reads to me that you are very excited about this woman, hence the capital letters. Excited, elated, reads to me that you are experiencing that euphoric in love feelings.

You don’t want a relationship because you don’t want to interrupt your busy schedule, you wrote. And you are busy and doing so well, from your share, studying, working, paying your own bills, all at 19, and, if all this wasn’t impressive enough, you also volunteer!

“What to do?” is the question in the title of your thread.

My answer: because you desire a long, fulfilling relationship, if at all, find out what she desires, what she want and is there a fit. Then had a series of honest, thorough, straightforward conversations with her, keeping euphoria in check, so to come up with a Relationship Plan that will work for you (not against you). Then proceed with caution, evaluating and re-evaluating the plan along the way.

anita