Minnivei,

It sounds like you don’t have practice in relationships or dating.  That is crucial first step(s) before falling in love/loving someone.  Have you done that?  You said you never dated.  Try dating casually without the focus or intention of falling in love.  Have you made friends with the opposite sex, i.e. platonic friends/activity friends?

I would start with that rather than having a goal of falling in love.  Enjoy the process of creating friendships and learning about each other.

Mark