Dear BlessedInThe603:

Throughout your relationship with her, did she ever take responsibility for her jealousy, telling you that it is her problem, her issue, not yours?

For example, did she ever express to you something like: there is nothing wrong with you visiting your grandchildren. I feel jealousy about it, but there is nothing wrong with you wanting to visit your grandchildren, nothing wrong with you visiting them.

Or did she accuse you for being in the wrong, feeling her jealousy and possession are right, justified?

anita