Dear cass:

You have a core belief, then, a belief formed early in life that you are “less than other people”. So what happens is you have this last relationship. The man you were involved with has a girlfriend now and did not refer to you as his girlfriend then because she lives closer and/ or because she doesn’t attend parties without him, not because you are inadequate and less than her.

But because you believe that you are (a belief formed before you met this man), you project this belief into this situation. And so, you reject all the logical possibilities in favor of this core belief.

This core belief will continue to project itself into your life situations as it does into this one until you challenge this core belief. To challenge it, to confront it and question it, got to go back to the time it was formed.

This can and should be done in quality psychotherapy. If you would like to share here about when and how this core belief was formed, please do.

anita